BY Jeff boss
Humble people can receive a bad rap. Humility is
frequently associated with being too passive,
submissive or insecure, but this couldn’t be any
further from the truth.
Instead, humble people are quite the opposite—
confident and competent in themselves so much
that, as a result, they seek to self-actualize by
helping theirs. Humble people are still self-
efficacious; they just don’t feel the impetus to
boast about themselves but instead, let their
actions speak for their ideals. To be humble is not
to think less of oneself, but to think of oneself less.
To help identify what humble looks like (and how
you can adopt greater humility for yourself. After
all, who doesn’t need greater humility?), here are
13 habits of humble people:
They’re Situationally Aware
Situational awareness is a function of emotional
intelligence as it is being aware of oneself, the
group, the actions of each and the social dynamics
therein. As such, situationally aware people aim
their focus outward as they try to absorb (i.e.
learn) more about the situation
They Retain Relationships
Studies have shown that humble people are more
likely to help friends than their prideful
counterparts. As a result, they maintain stronger
personal and professional relationships. A study of
more than 1,000 people—with roughly 200 in
leadership positions—revealed that companies with
humble people in leadership positions had a more
engaged workforce and less employee turnover.
They Make Difficult Decisions With Ease
Since humble people put others’ needs before their
own, when faced with difficult decisions they
respect the moral and ethical boundaries that
govern the decision and base their decision-making
criteria off a sense of shared purpose rather than
self-interest.
They Put Others First
Humble people know their self-worth. As a result,
they don’t feel the need to cast themselves before
others just to show them how much they know.
Instead, humble people realize that nobody cares
how much they know until those people know how
much they’re cared for.
Humility is the true key to success. Successful
people lose their way at times. They often embrace
and overindulge from the fruits of success.
Humility halts this arrogance and self-indulging
trap. Humble people share the credit and wealth,
remaining focused and hungry to continue the
journey of success.
They Listen
There’s nothing more annoying that being in a
conversation with somebody who you can just tell
is dying to get his or her words in. When you see
their mental gears spinning, it’s a sign they’re not
listening but rather waiting to speak. Why?
Because they believe that what they have to say is
more valuable than listening to you. In other
words, they’re placing their self-interest first.
Humble people, however, actively listen to others
before summarizing the conversation. Moreover,
humble people don’t try to dominate a
conversation or talk over people. They’re eager to
understand others because they’re curious.
Speaking of which…
They’re Curious
Humble people seek knowledge because they are
perpetual learners and realize that they don’t have
all the answers. They glean knowledge from the
experiences of others and crave more opportunities
to learn.
They Speak Their Minds
While active listening is certainly important, humble
people aren’t afraid to speak their minds because
being wrong is not a fear they have. They know
that to bridge the gap between unwillingness and
willingness there must be action; they summon the
courage to face difficulty as they graciously accept
to sacrifice themselves.
They Take Time To Say “Thank You”
At a business dinner, for example, no matter
whether you’re engaged in a heated conversation
with others or not, humble people take the time to
express thanks to the service for tending to the
little things.
They Have An Abundance Mentality
Humble people don’t believe that one person’s
“win” necessarily mean another person’s “loss.”
Instead, they know there’s plenty of opportunity to
go around and that finding it just necessitates
collaboration and communication.
They Start Sentences With “You” Rather Than “I”
Humble people put others at the forefront of their
thoughts. Humble people brag about others, while
the prideful people brag about themselves.
They Accept Feedback
Humble people are not only receptive to
constructive criticism but actively seek it because
they know that feedback is a pathway to
improvement.
They Assume Responsibility
Rather than eschewing blame on “the system” or
the behaviors of others, humble people assume
responsibility by speaking up and owning their
part.
They Ask For Help
Part of being humble means realizing that you
don’t have all the answers. No one does. Humble
people acknowledge what they do and do not know
and enlist help for the latter.
Humility displays a willingness to learn and
become better–two things that everybody should
cultivate. # behumble
Tuesday 3 March 2015
Saturday 28 February 2015
HOW THE LAW OF ATTRACTION COMPLETES YOUR CIRCLE OF LIFE
FROM #BELIMITLESS
The law of attraction is a very insightful law by which to live. In other words, your ability to become intuitive will skyrocket if you attract what you want in life, especially what you dream of.
Do you dream of traveling the world? Do you dream of writing a book? Do you dream of opening up your very own business?
Everyone has unique dreams that differ from one another, but whatever that dream may be, it’s completely possible. Spread your wings. Search for your purpose and freedom in this life. Most importantly, be as real as they come. Demonstrate to others that life isn’t all that tough if we come to understand how lucky we are to be alive in this beautiful world, where miracles take place every day.
All it takes is grasping on to our fullest potential to do what we love, holding it closely and never letting it go.
Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. When people can’t do something themselves, they’re gonna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period. – Will Smith, “Pursuit of Happyness”
Here are 30 ways to help you attract what you truly dream of in life:
1. Be positive. Walk around with the most positive attitude possible, so positive people don’t know what to think. When you speak, do it with good intentions. Attract positive thoughts no matter what you’re going through. The more positivity you have in your life, the less negativity exists.
2. Be grateful; appreciate everything. There’s nothing in this world we shouldn’t be grateful for. Be grateful for your family. Be grateful for your friends. Be grateful for a home. Be grateful for food to eat. Be grateful for adventure.
Some people aren’t fortunate enough to have any of these things. Some of us start with absolutely nothing. Don’t take anything for granted.
3. Believe in your own dreams. Attract what you dream of because once your dreams come true, life turns into an endless miracle. Anything and everything you need or want is out there. Just believe you, without question, have what it takes.
4. Follow your intuition. You are the only one who has control over what goes on in your mind. If something feels so right, it’s probably something you should do. If you have urges, listen to them carefully. In a sense, be willing to let your intuition guide you.
5. Follow your heart with courage. The law of attraction has everything to do with following your heart. Even if following your heart leads to heartache, meet heartache with courage. Courage gives you strength. Don’t let the influence of others bring you down. Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed and don’t forget to support them during their journeys, as well.
6. Listen to your gut instinct. We’ve always been told our gut instinct is usually right. Whether it’s right or wrong, our gut can usually sense something is a little wobbly. Pay attention to this feeling and be mindful of it. There are very greedy people in this world, which is why it’s important to always be on our toe.
7. Give to others and help others. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. We’ve all heard this statement, haven’t we? Attract to yourself the way you want to be treated by equally treating others with kindness. It creates a world filled with virtuous karma.
8. Travel to be inspired on a whole new level.Traveling is hands-down one of my top and most important priorities in life. Every time I travel, I am immensely exposed to a whole different part of the world I previously knew nothing about. When we see new places, we gain new perspectives and new perspectives are always a wonderful addition to the way we live our lives.
9. Make time to do what YOU enjoy. The law of attraction suggests we attract what we want. Do you want more time to do what you enjoy most? If so, make that time because there’s plenty of it. Don’t make excuses. Time is just an idea with numbers and a clock ticking
10. No buts. No what ifs. No can’ts. No won’ts. Nothing is “too hard” to accomplish.
11. Be real with everyone. Let’s be real: Nobody likes fake personalities. If you can’t be real, it will be extremely difficult to attract real. To be real is to be honest; to be real is to be kind, and to be real is to admit to your failures.
12. Practice what you preach; don’t be a hypocrite. Show others that if you can do something, anyone can. If you want to practice putting good into the world, then you must preach about putting good into the world.
13. Realize your imagination is very powerful. Imagine your dreams coming true. The law of attraction is all about imagining what you want and turning it into a reality. If you’re always thinking about your dreams or imagining them, you will work that much harder for them.
14. Be passionate about what interests you. Be enthusiastic to learn about what you’ve always been interested in. If you’re truly passionate about something, you will take the time to learn about it.
15. Conquer your failures. If you fail, rinse, wash, repeat. Always attract success and happiness.
16. Realize worry, stress and fear don’t matter. None of us like to worry, to be stressed out or to be terribly afraid of something. If we focus on eliminating worry, stress and fear, our lives will begin to grow happier. Embrace the unknown with wide-open arms and a heart waiting to be filled with adventure.
17. Recognize everything happens for a reason. Attract your ability to succeed, no matter what happens. Life is very mysterious, in a beautiful way.
18. Be honest; lies are worthless. If you attract the truth by always telling the truth, you will never have anything to hide. If you’re ashamed of something, admit to it. Never throw anyone under the bus, and more importantly, don’t ever blame someone else for your wrong doings. Right your wrongs and own your mistakes
19. Live as if every day is a miracle. Live like your dreams are coming true every single day. Live as if there won’t be a tomorrow. Miracles will begin to unfold all around you. There are two ways you can live: as if nothing is a miracle or as if everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein
20. Be open-minded. In order to attract what you want, you have to possess an open mind. Having an open mind gives you the ability to obtain multiple perspectives.
21. Don’t let school get in the way of your education. One of my favorite teachers used to say this all the time. In other words, school isn’t the only place you receive education; you also learn it from living life.
22. Learn from EVERYONE. Not only do we learn from our experiences, it’s also important to realize we can learn something from everyone. We all have something to learn or teach one another. This is pure evidence for why we are ALL capable of anything.
23. See the best in people. If we see the best in others, they will most likely see the best in us, hence the law of attraction. Start out by giving someone the benefit of the doubt. If he or she ends up disappointing you, cross that bridge when you get to it.
24. Believe in abundance and freedom. Along with freedom comes abundance. By achieving freedom, I don’t mean having all the money in the world to do whatever you please. Set yourself free and help others to be set free by simply appreciating life and the abundance it brings.
25. Focus on your needs vs. wants. Attract what you need and your wants will begin to prosper. If we don’t dial in on our needs first, we won’t be able to understand the importance of them. Our needs are needs. The wants will come along when they’re meant to.
26. Don’t get caught up in the idea that money buys happiness. Money buys material things. Money can’t buy passion or love. Money can’t buy ambition or success. Money can’t buy dreams or purpose or meaning to life.
If all I had was a penny left in my pocket and someone needed it, I would give it up in a heartbeat.
27. Remember, there’s always room to improve. Nobody is perfect in this world. You may not be born as a prodigy or born with the talent you wish you could have, but if you practice, you learn. Why not gain the knowledge about everything that interests you and then improve on what matters most?
28. Don’t give up. Ever. Never. Period.
29. Be patient. Patience is a virtue. I always dream about achieving my goals in the fast lane, but sometimes, it doesn’t work out that way. We just have to go with the flow.
30. Inspire others; motivate them. Aspire to inspire. With your ambition and enthusiasm, motivate others.
Show others that life is all about the adventure and the journey. Through our imagination is how our dreams spiral out of control and into control. Once they’re in control, seize each and every day as if it were your last.
Captivate what you dream of and don’t ever settle for less.
The law of attraction is a very insightful law by which to live. In other words, your ability to become intuitive will skyrocket if you attract what you want in life, especially what you dream of.
Do you dream of traveling the world? Do you dream of writing a book? Do you dream of opening up your very own business?
Everyone has unique dreams that differ from one another, but whatever that dream may be, it’s completely possible. Spread your wings. Search for your purpose and freedom in this life. Most importantly, be as real as they come. Demonstrate to others that life isn’t all that tough if we come to understand how lucky we are to be alive in this beautiful world, where miracles take place every day.
All it takes is grasping on to our fullest potential to do what we love, holding it closely and never letting it go.
Don’t ever let someone tell you that you can’t do something. Not even me. You got a dream, you gotta protect it. When people can’t do something themselves, they’re gonna tell you that you can’t do it. You want something, go get it. Period. – Will Smith, “Pursuit of Happyness”
Here are 30 ways to help you attract what you truly dream of in life:
1. Be positive. Walk around with the most positive attitude possible, so positive people don’t know what to think. When you speak, do it with good intentions. Attract positive thoughts no matter what you’re going through. The more positivity you have in your life, the less negativity exists.
2. Be grateful; appreciate everything. There’s nothing in this world we shouldn’t be grateful for. Be grateful for your family. Be grateful for your friends. Be grateful for a home. Be grateful for food to eat. Be grateful for adventure.
Some people aren’t fortunate enough to have any of these things. Some of us start with absolutely nothing. Don’t take anything for granted.
3. Believe in your own dreams. Attract what you dream of because once your dreams come true, life turns into an endless miracle. Anything and everything you need or want is out there. Just believe you, without question, have what it takes.
4. Follow your intuition. You are the only one who has control over what goes on in your mind. If something feels so right, it’s probably something you should do. If you have urges, listen to them carefully. In a sense, be willing to let your intuition guide you.
5. Follow your heart with courage. The law of attraction has everything to do with following your heart. Even if following your heart leads to heartache, meet heartache with courage. Courage gives you strength. Don’t let the influence of others bring you down. Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed and don’t forget to support them during their journeys, as well.
6. Listen to your gut instinct. We’ve always been told our gut instinct is usually right. Whether it’s right or wrong, our gut can usually sense something is a little wobbly. Pay attention to this feeling and be mindful of it. There are very greedy people in this world, which is why it’s important to always be on our toe.
7. Give to others and help others. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. We’ve all heard this statement, haven’t we? Attract to yourself the way you want to be treated by equally treating others with kindness. It creates a world filled with virtuous karma.
8. Travel to be inspired on a whole new level.Traveling is hands-down one of my top and most important priorities in life. Every time I travel, I am immensely exposed to a whole different part of the world I previously knew nothing about. When we see new places, we gain new perspectives and new perspectives are always a wonderful addition to the way we live our lives.
9. Make time to do what YOU enjoy. The law of attraction suggests we attract what we want. Do you want more time to do what you enjoy most? If so, make that time because there’s plenty of it. Don’t make excuses. Time is just an idea with numbers and a clock ticking
10. No buts. No what ifs. No can’ts. No won’ts. Nothing is “too hard” to accomplish.
11. Be real with everyone. Let’s be real: Nobody likes fake personalities. If you can’t be real, it will be extremely difficult to attract real. To be real is to be honest; to be real is to be kind, and to be real is to admit to your failures.
12. Practice what you preach; don’t be a hypocrite. Show others that if you can do something, anyone can. If you want to practice putting good into the world, then you must preach about putting good into the world.
13. Realize your imagination is very powerful. Imagine your dreams coming true. The law of attraction is all about imagining what you want and turning it into a reality. If you’re always thinking about your dreams or imagining them, you will work that much harder for them.
14. Be passionate about what interests you. Be enthusiastic to learn about what you’ve always been interested in. If you’re truly passionate about something, you will take the time to learn about it.
15. Conquer your failures. If you fail, rinse, wash, repeat. Always attract success and happiness.
16. Realize worry, stress and fear don’t matter. None of us like to worry, to be stressed out or to be terribly afraid of something. If we focus on eliminating worry, stress and fear, our lives will begin to grow happier. Embrace the unknown with wide-open arms and a heart waiting to be filled with adventure.
17. Recognize everything happens for a reason. Attract your ability to succeed, no matter what happens. Life is very mysterious, in a beautiful way.
18. Be honest; lies are worthless. If you attract the truth by always telling the truth, you will never have anything to hide. If you’re ashamed of something, admit to it. Never throw anyone under the bus, and more importantly, don’t ever blame someone else for your wrong doings. Right your wrongs and own your mistakes
19. Live as if every day is a miracle. Live like your dreams are coming true every single day. Live as if there won’t be a tomorrow. Miracles will begin to unfold all around you. There are two ways you can live: as if nothing is a miracle or as if everything is a miracle. – Albert Einstein
20. Be open-minded. In order to attract what you want, you have to possess an open mind. Having an open mind gives you the ability to obtain multiple perspectives.
21. Don’t let school get in the way of your education. One of my favorite teachers used to say this all the time. In other words, school isn’t the only place you receive education; you also learn it from living life.
22. Learn from EVERYONE. Not only do we learn from our experiences, it’s also important to realize we can learn something from everyone. We all have something to learn or teach one another. This is pure evidence for why we are ALL capable of anything.
23. See the best in people. If we see the best in others, they will most likely see the best in us, hence the law of attraction. Start out by giving someone the benefit of the doubt. If he or she ends up disappointing you, cross that bridge when you get to it.
24. Believe in abundance and freedom. Along with freedom comes abundance. By achieving freedom, I don’t mean having all the money in the world to do whatever you please. Set yourself free and help others to be set free by simply appreciating life and the abundance it brings.
25. Focus on your needs vs. wants. Attract what you need and your wants will begin to prosper. If we don’t dial in on our needs first, we won’t be able to understand the importance of them. Our needs are needs. The wants will come along when they’re meant to.
26. Don’t get caught up in the idea that money buys happiness. Money buys material things. Money can’t buy passion or love. Money can’t buy ambition or success. Money can’t buy dreams or purpose or meaning to life.
If all I had was a penny left in my pocket and someone needed it, I would give it up in a heartbeat.
27. Remember, there’s always room to improve. Nobody is perfect in this world. You may not be born as a prodigy or born with the talent you wish you could have, but if you practice, you learn. Why not gain the knowledge about everything that interests you and then improve on what matters most?
28. Don’t give up. Ever. Never. Period.
29. Be patient. Patience is a virtue. I always dream about achieving my goals in the fast lane, but sometimes, it doesn’t work out that way. We just have to go with the flow.
30. Inspire others; motivate them. Aspire to inspire. With your ambition and enthusiasm, motivate others.
Show others that life is all about the adventure and the journey. Through our imagination is how our dreams spiral out of control and into control. Once they’re in control, seize each and every day as if it were your last.
Captivate what you dream of and don’t ever settle for less.
Sunday 1 February 2015
How your behaviour in restaurant show your character
The way they interact with a server
How a person treats a server can tell you a lot. If they’re polite and treat the wait staff with respect, you can intuit that person is likely to be a good manager and not someone who gets hung up on hierarchy. You can also glimpse their ability to be collaborative. If they’re haughty, aloof or overbearing, that could prevent strong relationships with peers or cross-functional partners. Conversely, being friendly, personable or appropriately chatty are strong signals that this person may have the ability to win the admiration of people at all job levels - a valuable skill in any large global organization.
The way they order their meal.
If someone hems and haws over something as simple as how their two eggs should be cooked, they may also have a hard time making important decisions at work. It’s important to be able to make decisions with both speed and quality in the fast-paced business world. So, if someone is unable to decide between the Caesar salad and the fish tacos, they’re likely to struggle prioritizing during, say, budget allocations. If they ask for lots of substitutions to one of the chef’s creations, you may be uncovering some high-maintenance tendencies (unless, of course, they have food allergies) or you may be on the verge of hiring someone who wants to play by their own rules.
Their manners.
Do they show up on time? Do they use a napkin and chew with their mouth closed? If you are picking up the tab (which you should be if they’re interviewing for a role at your company), do they say “thank you” to you at the end of the meal? Just like your mom always said, manners are part of common courtesy and showing respect to others. If your applicant seems anything but pleasant and not like “the kind of person you want to go have a drink with,” you may want to think again before making that offer. Basic manners are not skills that will suddenly develop in the weeks before that person starts working on your team.
Of course, none of these observations should be considered in a vacuum. It may be the case that some potential employees just need some training and coaching. But if you’re hiring for a senior leader on your team, remember that ingrained habits are hard to break. And whatever behaviors you spot during breakfast or lunch are quite likely to pop up again in other settings. Trust your gut. If you have any hesitation about your lunch mate during an informal meal, don’t chalk it up to their nerves. It’s likely a sign that you shouldn’t hire them.
Monday 26 January 2015
Saturday 24 January 2015
The burden of attachments
Why do the people suffer in life? It´s not the outside circumstances, which hurt us. We hurt ourselves, just by being attached to many things, values and people. Your freedom begins in your inner world, and only then, no outside events can take it from you. Learn to let go, and to respect the natural flow of things and events around you, and you will become victorious in the whole life.
The basic problem is, that we expect too many things from the world. And any expectation means attachment. But the outside world can´t be controlled by us, and if we pray for our dreams to be fulfilled, we just confirm how weak we are, how much we need other things or people for our happiness and fulfillment.
For example, many of us are so emotionally hungry, we would like to share our love with somebody special, and when we successfully meet someone special, who seems beneficial and useful for improving the overall quality of our life, we are immediately caught in the net of dangerous expectations. Then, we begin to be emotionally dependent on other people. But we can´t control them, and we take their freedom with this approach. The nature doesn´t like this behavior, so she often punishes us by disappointment, when that people fail in our high expectations.
That other people don´t spoil our relationships - we do. Not outside circumstances and events hurt us - we do it ourselves, just by this questionable and unsustainable approach.
The key to happiness, inner peace and fulfilled relationships is to be able to let go your dreams and all things you were holding so tight, and you were scared to lose them. You fought desperately with the world, so that they won´t leave you, you wanted to stay them forever, to please you, ease your eternal hunger and your foiled hopes, that you lost long time ago, when someone or something hurt you.
The happiness is in our hands, not in the quality of the matters outside. Just let go everything you were so strongly attached to, and you will become the master of your life, who is able to fully control his or her emotions, because you will be independent on the world outside. Only then, your feelings can be stable, only then your disciline will hold and your personal and professional goals can be fulfilled. Otherwise, you will spend your life just waiting for something that will possibly never come, and your lonely nights will be full of tears and regrets.
Fill youself with acceptance of the world exactly as it really is... and then, no alleged loss of things, people or theoretical opportunities will hurt you.
And then, you will be free, no matter what will happen around you. You will be the person who will survive all trembles and changes. Just accept them, and let go all that old inside you. You pampered your nice memories of things and people you thought you once had, but this attachment was hurting you long after they were gone, because losses are the basic part of our life, and no matter how tightly you will try to hold your world together, it will run away from you anyway. And you just exhaust you inner power, and even love inside you.
Remember, our only mission here in life is to be happy. But it is our full responsibility to achieve this status, and nobody else can accomplish this crucial goal instead of us.
Just let go, forget, be content and open your mind to the present moment... only it matters for achieving the happiness.by. Alan svejk
The basic problem is, that we expect too many things from the world. And any expectation means attachment. But the outside world can´t be controlled by us, and if we pray for our dreams to be fulfilled, we just confirm how weak we are, how much we need other things or people for our happiness and fulfillment.
For example, many of us are so emotionally hungry, we would like to share our love with somebody special, and when we successfully meet someone special, who seems beneficial and useful for improving the overall quality of our life, we are immediately caught in the net of dangerous expectations. Then, we begin to be emotionally dependent on other people. But we can´t control them, and we take their freedom with this approach. The nature doesn´t like this behavior, so she often punishes us by disappointment, when that people fail in our high expectations.
That other people don´t spoil our relationships - we do. Not outside circumstances and events hurt us - we do it ourselves, just by this questionable and unsustainable approach.
The key to happiness, inner peace and fulfilled relationships is to be able to let go your dreams and all things you were holding so tight, and you were scared to lose them. You fought desperately with the world, so that they won´t leave you, you wanted to stay them forever, to please you, ease your eternal hunger and your foiled hopes, that you lost long time ago, when someone or something hurt you.
The happiness is in our hands, not in the quality of the matters outside. Just let go everything you were so strongly attached to, and you will become the master of your life, who is able to fully control his or her emotions, because you will be independent on the world outside. Only then, your feelings can be stable, only then your disciline will hold and your personal and professional goals can be fulfilled. Otherwise, you will spend your life just waiting for something that will possibly never come, and your lonely nights will be full of tears and regrets.
Fill youself with acceptance of the world exactly as it really is... and then, no alleged loss of things, people or theoretical opportunities will hurt you.
And then, you will be free, no matter what will happen around you. You will be the person who will survive all trembles and changes. Just accept them, and let go all that old inside you. You pampered your nice memories of things and people you thought you once had, but this attachment was hurting you long after they were gone, because losses are the basic part of our life, and no matter how tightly you will try to hold your world together, it will run away from you anyway. And you just exhaust you inner power, and even love inside you.
Remember, our only mission here in life is to be happy. But it is our full responsibility to achieve this status, and nobody else can accomplish this crucial goal instead of us.
Just let go, forget, be content and open your mind to the present moment... only it matters for achieving the happiness.by. Alan svejk
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